Guys aren't very good listeners. They always have to offer advice. Ergo, when I met Sarah, I talked about things that drove me life. I talked about things that I was excited about.
After a few dates, I talked about all of my fears about myself.
And after dating and marrying she's discovering and I am working on the things I should actually fear about myself.
So, throw the advice out if you think it sucks, but to summarize: just talk about what you are excited about in life. Keep it positive for the evening, and remember that you are cool.
Blind dates can go one of four ways: 1. Eventful and great, most likely leading to a second date. 2. Eventful and bad, you leave with a blind-date-war-story about him. 3. Eventful and bad, he leaves with a blind-date-war-story about you. 4. Uneventful, no one leaves with anything but more cynicism about dating/blind-dating.
The only reason worth going on a blind date is to shoot for #1. The last thing you need right now is #4. I say, err on the side of trying too hard to make it a #1 night rather than a #4 night, and, if nothing else, you will end up with a #2 or #3 night. My money's on a #2 night, with #4 in a close second. No offense, I just don't see that as the way God will bring Mr. Right into your life.
i happen to have some recent experience in this area. even if you do end up with a #1 night according to tom's blind dating expert analysis, it will feel like a #4 night or a #2 night. however, given that, if the night ends with you thinking "i don't know," give the guy a second chance. usually, my "i don't knows" lead to resounding "nos" and look where that has gotte me. i will choose the opposite for you.
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Guys aren't very good listeners. They always have to offer advice. Ergo, when I met Sarah, I talked about things that drove me life. I talked about things that I was excited about.
After a few dates, I talked about all of my fears about myself.
And after dating and marrying she's discovering and I am working on the things I should actually fear about myself.
So, throw the advice out if you think it sucks, but to summarize: just talk about what you are excited about in life. Keep it positive for the evening, and remember that you are cool.
Blind dates can go one of four ways:
1. Eventful and great, most likely leading to a second date.
2. Eventful and bad, you leave with a blind-date-war-story about him.
3. Eventful and bad, he leaves with a blind-date-war-story about you.
4. Uneventful, no one leaves with anything but more cynicism about dating/blind-dating.
The only reason worth going on a blind date is to shoot for #1. The last thing you need right now is #4. I say, err on the side of trying too hard to make it a #1 night rather than a #4 night, and, if nothing else, you will end up with a #2 or #3 night. My money's on a #2 night, with #4 in a close second. No offense, I just don't see that as the way God will bring Mr. Right into your life.
i happen to have some recent experience in this area. even if you do end up with a #1 night according to tom's blind dating expert analysis, it will feel like a #4 night or a #2 night. however, given that, if the night ends with you thinking "i don't know," give the guy a second chance. usually, my "i don't knows" lead to resounding "nos" and look where that has gotte me. i will choose the opposite for you.
Another one to put on the list. 5. Went okay, no huge sparks, no catastrophes. If something happens, fine; if nothing happens, fine.
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